To Bless or To Curse

Words can either bless or curse. A spoken blessing can be wishing someone congratulations or encouragement. Words that inspire hope and provide someone with a sense of relief can be a blessing. When a compliment is given in sincerity, both parties receive a gift. There is a quote by Hada Bejar, “The fragrance always stays in the hand that gives the rose.” When you give a blessing, you will receive one back. It may not come from the other person, but it will come from Spirit. The good we do others will return to us in another form when we need it most. Make a practice of uplifting people with your words whenever you have an opportunity. Often a few kind words can make a huge difference to someone who feels as if they are at the end of their rope.

 A curse can be any words that have the effect of instilling a feeling of hopelessness or helplessness in the receiver. Words that are meant to discourage someone, or words that chip away at another’s self esteem can also be a curse or a hex. A lie can be a hex by deliberately pulling the wool over someone’s eyes, thus making them believe something that’s false. Insults that are meant to make someone question their self worth are one of the worst kinds of “hexes.” Someone who does this is creating negative karma for themselves, especially if the target of the insult is a child or otherwise vulnerable person.

 Words of discouragement can have a profoundly negative impact, especially when someone is already in a vulnerable state. They can only impact you, however, if you let them in. You have a choice to either accept or reject what anyone tells you. It’s best to surround yourself with people who wish the best for you, and see the best in you. Give your attention to the ones who are on your team. When you give attention to those who don’t wish you well, you are rooting against yourself!

 If someone has hurt you so badly that you can no longer be in contact with them, sending a silent blessing to them is a way to heal some of the negative karma that connection holds for you. Getting to the place where you can silently wish them well is a huge step forward in the process of letting go. As long as you wish someone ill you are still energetically tied to them. Hate, or the desire for revenge, creates an energy cord almost as strong as love. So if you really want to be free of that person, silently wishing them happiness is a way to heal from the experience and at the same time set yourself free.  The Universe will send YOU blessings in return!

 Angela Pizzarello is an Intuition Guide, a Reiki Master and an Emotional Freedom Coach. She can be reached at or at 203-532-1159 for private sessions.  Like her Facebook page at






Turning Darkness To Light

Turning darkness to light is the art of using apparent misfortune to take you higher.  We’ve all experienced this in some way.  The job you get fired from leads to either a better job, or some much needed recoup time via unemployment, and a chance to rethink your career path.  The “love of your life” breaks up with you, and later on you meet your true love. Your landlord tells you that you need to move out because he’s selling the building, and you finally take that plunge and buy your first home.  These are all examples of good coming from adversity.  Sometimes the Universe doesn’t just gently push you in the right direction.  Sometimes it gives you a great big shove off the cliff, and forces you to take a leap of faith.  Hence the term, “sink or swim!”

 There is an art to turning darkness to light, and it lies in the power of your intention.  You can consciously intend that everything that happens, including the bad stuff, serve your highest good in the end.  There is spiritual power in the belief that, “All things work together for God and for Good.”  Affirm this enough and it becomes the Truth. 

 Another way to put this is, “If it’s happening, it must be for my highest good!”  This takes a great deal of faith when things seem to be headed for the worse.  But we’re all familiar with the expression that faith can move mountains.  Sometimes faith needs to be demonstrated to create a certain desired result.

 You can create a ceremony around this belief by burning a black and white candle at the same time.  Black candles can be used for releasing negativity, white for attracting Divine light.  In this case the black candle represents whatever negative associations you have with this event or experience.  The white candle represents that experience being used by Spirit to somehow create an even happier future for you, one that you may not even be possible of envisioning right now. 

 Hold the black candle while thinking about and feeling all of the negative charge from the experience.  Be willing to allow whatever happened to serve you in some way.  Maybe it taught you a valuable lesson.  Perhaps it freed you from a situation that was never going to turn out the way you had hoped.  You may have needed that experience to open your heart, or to have you finally take back your power.  Now is the time to release it so that new and better things can come in.  Light the candle with a willingness to let it all go.

 Next take the white candle.  Think of what you’d like to have show up in your life.  If you were forced out of your job, then imagine your career path opening up and a wonderful new opportunity coming in.  If the disappointment was in your love life, then envision yourself attracting someone way more compatible than your old love.  Even if it seems unfathomable that any good might possibly come from the situation, imagine the comfort and support of all your angels around you while you light your white candle.  You don’t have to know how it’s going to look, you just have to believe.

 Burn the candles down completely.  Every time you think of the old experience, say a prayer to your angels asking that this experience be turned to light.  Believe it, and it eventually will be.  Even manure can bring forth flowers.

Angela Pizzarello is an Intuition Guide, a Reiki Master and an Emotional Freedom Coach.  She can be reached at or by phone at 203-532-1159 for private sessions and workshops.

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Spiritual Bathing

  Ever notice how relaxed and refreshed you feel after a dip in the ocean?  All that salt water helps to cleanse your aura, clearing away the energetic “sludge” that you pick up during your interactions with negative people (we all know a couple), toxic situations (like traffic jams) or emotional upset.  What about the times you can’t make it to the ocean?  There’s an easy way to remove negative energy from your aura.  All it requires is a bathtub, a few simple ingredients and your intention. 
      Spiritual bathing is an ancient practice to cleanse, release, revive and refresh.  The most important ingredient is your intention to release whatever energy you picked up that doesn’t belong to you.  This is harmless, and doesn’t send the energy back to the person but rather sends it back to the Universe.  The Universe knows how to recycle it back into pure potential. 
      The basic recipe for spiritual bathing is sea salt – about a half cup to a cup.  You can also use a combo of sea salt and Epsom salts.  Salt helps to de-toxify and release negativity.  You can use essential oils as well.  Lavender, patchouli or sandalwood help you relax.  Lemon, eucalyptus and rosemary are cleansing.  Pour a few drops into a couple of teaspoons of milk & pour into the tub right before you step in.  The milk helps disperse the oils and makes them last longer.
      Another nice addition is a lemon cut in half.  Squeeze the juice into the water & throw the halves in the tub – very cleansing.  Or, if you feel you need peace & sweet dreams, add beer to the water.  Beer is made from hops, which promotes serenity and keeps nightmares away. There’s also an inexpensive cologne you can buy at most drugstores called Florida water.  Made from water, alcohol & essential oils, it’s been used since the 19th century for spiritual cleansing.  A little goes a long way.
      Keep it simple, add what feels right & make sure you’re not allergic to any of the ingredients.  Light a candle to Spirit right before stepping into the tub, asking to be renewed, revitalized and blessed.  Finally, the next time you’re at the beach, take some sea water home with you in a bottle, and add it to your bath.  Your “inner mermaid” will love it!

Angela Pizzarello is an Intuition Guide, a Reiki Master, and an Emotional Freedom Coach.


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